the emotional benefits of not believing what you read

The written word is not necessarily any truer than the spoken word, and the act of writing something down doesn’t make a thought true.

The reason I mention this is because I see that a lot of people have -for lack of a better word – gullibility when it comes to written words.  They’re more likely to believe the words if they’re written down as opposed to spoken.  I have theories as to why this is the case… because a lot of books are filled with facts, it’s easy to believe that all books are filled with facts unless the words are obviously false or made-up or labeled as fiction.  It’s also easier to believe opinion words when they are mixed in with words that are true.  Which means a random opinion could be thrown in among a bunch of facts, and people are more likely to believe it because it is surrounded by facts, and their brains aren’t switching gears to notice the presence of an opinion.

I was very gullible about written words until two years ago at the age of 29, so definitely don’t feel bad if you are in this camp.  I’ll explain further – it’s kind of a funny story.

I uncovered that I was more gullible with written than spoken words while taking the Lefkoe Freedom Course.  In the course, I was to write down the thoughts I had that were causing my emotional upsets, and the conclusions I was jumping to.

I remember I had a moment when I was writing down my beliefs – the false beliefs I didn’t want, and panicking because I was writing them down.  I realized the reason for my panic.  It was because I was subconsciously thinking If I write these horrible beliefs down, that means they will become true.   This subconscious thought had been causing me anxiety throughout the course, because I was supposed to write down my beliefs frequently.

And that’s how I had a breakthrough.  I believed that written words – unless very obviously false – were the truth – and that writing down a subjective thought would make it come true!  I started laughing when I realized that this was my belief.  It was such a huge breakthrough for me, and a tremendous relief.

I knew that if I wrote down the words “The moon is made of cheese,” that it wouldn’t come true.  It was only the case when I was dealing with more subjective thoughts that couldn’t easily be disproven.  So if I were to write down the words (or read someone else’s words) that said an opinion – I was very likely to begin agreeing with that opinion and find evidence for why the opinion was valid.

I realized, in retrospect, how much this particular nuance of thinking had affected my mind and my ability to think freely, and therefore damaged my emotional state.  I also realized that if I had this nuance, there are probably a bunch of other people that still have it too.

Gullibility in the written word explains a lot of things.  It certainly explains fundamentalism based on written texts.

How is my life different now that I’m way less gullible with written words?   I feel more at peace.  I notice opinions now – whereas before I would accept them as truth.  My mind is much freer.  Opinions tend to stick out like a sore thumb to me.  I’ll be reading something and be thinking… truth… truth… truth… opinion… truth… truth… false… truth… I can tell the writer is upset emotionally here, and therefore believing something untrue…. truth… truth…

Remember: just because it’s written down, doesn’t mean it’s necessarily true.  And just because it’s spoken, doesn’t mean it’s necessarily true either.  Check your sources.

love,
Kate

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in remembrance of Morty Lefkoe

Morty Lefkoe, the creator of the Lefkoe Method of eliminating beliefs, passed away today.  He is survived by his widow, Shelly Lefkoe, an equally amazing person who also helped me eliminate some beliefs.

These two people have made such a huge impact on my life.  I have spoken previously in the blog about how powerful the Lefkoe Freedom Course was.  That course, which I took two years ago, was instrumental in helping me understand my emotions and the emotions of others.  Because of how hardcore it was (I called it a mental bootcamp because it involved doing the mental work 14 times a day), I experienced rapid changes in mindset and emotional well-being.  Two weeks into the course, I had a day where I did nothing of real significance, but it was the best-feeling day of my entire life up to that point.  That’s how brilliant his methodology was.

Everyone knew how loving a person Morty was.  He would sign off each class with an “I love you” to his students.

He will be greatly missed by many people, I’m sure.  Morty, it was an honor to be your student and thank you for touching the lives of so many people.

love,
Kate

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why I write

To showcase the non-crazy, non-garbage part of my mind.

To leave a legacy, so that my words have the chance to comfort and heal people even after I’m dead, hopefully.

To get the words out of my system, because there are so many that it’s overwhelming at times.  They’ve got to go somewhere.

To give inspiration access to me.

In an effort to help others and myself.

To be part of the solution.

Because there’s always the chance that I’ll die today (hope not), and I don’t want to die with the words still in me and not out there.  What a waste that would be.  If the words have the potential to be helpful, why not share them?

Because life is precious and not to be wasted.

Because my writing hand is wiser than I am.  It thinks of things I could never think of.  The act of writing brings the most truth out of me.  If I write down a false thought it immediately looks false to me, whereas if I kept it in my head, it’s much easier for it to lead me into the previously mentioned garbage-mind.

As an intellectual and emotional release.

Because I can and must.

Which brings me to a bigger point… the reason anyone has ever done anything is because they had to.  As Byron Katie puts it, “It’s their job.”  That is the truth that has given me the most freedom of all.

Writing out of necessity,
Kate

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